Is Obama a co-dependent...?

obama tries to make everybody happy and ends up making nobody happy, a genuine "people-pleaser"...

i somehow never applied the term "co-dependent" to obama but the signs have certainly been there all along... i guess it was this that finally caused me to get a clue...

Obama's Secret Afghan Exit Formula

President Obama is poised to unveil his top-secret plan to slowly reduce U.S. troops in Afghanistan by upward of 30,000 over 12 to 18 months—a plan he hopes will satisfy both those pushing for a quick exit and the diehards determined to stay the course.

in the co-dependency dynamic in dysfunctional relationships, "enablers" of on-going relationship dysfunction are called "co-dependents"... co-dependents are people so intent on preserving a relationship that they give up most of their own identity in the process...

the following is drawn from the wikipedia entry on co-dependency... i have taken the liberty of placing in italics those characteristics i think are particularly descriptive of obama...

Codependency (or codependence, co-narcissism or inverted narcissism) is a tendency to behave in overly passive or excessively caretaking ways that negatively impact one's relationships and quality of life. It also often involves putting one's needs at a lower priority than others while being excessively preoccupied with the needs of others.

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Denial patterns:

• I have difficulty identifying what I am feeling.
• I minimize, alter or deny how I truly feel.
• I perceive myself as completely unselfish and dedicated to the well-being of others.
• I lack empathy for the feelings and needs of others.
• I label others with my negative traits.
• I can take care of myself without any help from others.
• I mask my pain in various ways such as anger, humor, or isolation.
• I express negativity or aggression in indirect and passive ways.
• I do not recognize the unavailability of those people to whom I am attracted.
  

Compliance patterns:

• I compromise my own values and integrity to avoid rejection or others' anger.
• I am very sensitive to how others are feeling and feel the same.
• I am extremely loyal, remaining in harmful situations too long.
• I value others' opinions and feelings more than my own and am afraid to express differing opinions and feelings of my own.
• I put aside my own interests and hobbies in order to do what others want.
• I accept sex and/or sexual attention when I want love.
• I am afraid to express my beliefs, opinions, and feelings when they differ from those of others.
• I make decisions without regard to the consequences.
• I give up my truth to gain the approval of others or to avoid change.

obama has dramatically succeeded in one thing, that's for sure... ain't NOBODY happy...!

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